i’m a really good friend. and i support lots of people in lots of ways.
sometimes, it’s hard to be a good friend to myself though. it’s hard to show up for myself in the way i show up for others.
recently, when i’ve noticed myself giving someone something, being kind to them, loving and supporting them, i’ve tried to ask myself: how could i give myself that same love and support?
i try to embody love, curiosity, and empowerment, to embody those qualities.
i extend those qualities to others and to the world.
so learning to show up for myself has also been asking, how do I love myself? how do I be curious about myself? how do i empower myself?
some ways I love myself:
- remind myself of people that love me, and feel their love
- give myself compliments
- make sure i eat food and drink water and move my body and do other basic self-care necessities
- honor my boundaries
some ways I am curious about myself:
- ask myself questions, have a conversation with myself
- write in my journals
some ways i empower myself:
- coaching myself: talking to myself as both client and practitioner about what my problems are, asking questions, debugging
- give myself a pep talk
- investing in myself: buying a book or a course, or signing up for coaching on a topic, or…
a lot of it boils down to just talking to myself. using the same moves i use on other people, but with myself, while talking to myself.
it’s very familiar. it’s just a matter of doing the same thing i do for others, for myself.