Think of a romantic couple.
A good couple loves each other, cares about each other—not just in words and feelings, but in deed.
They know each other very well, and act in a coordinated fashion.
They are, of course, romantically connected. And they have made decisions about how to live together. Perhaps they are married, or have a family, or a house.
But at their core, they are something even more fundamental: what we might call a dyad.
A dyad is a well-coordinated group of two people, that can be seen as a unit.
They share a larger vision, they have similar values, and are working together to act in accordance with their shared reality, to make it so.
When they are apart, they keep the other in mind and in heart. They act in ways that are good for each other, on each other’s behalf.
A dyad is like a left hand and a right hand, working together.
By acting together, they can accomplish more than either could alone.
It is possible to have a dyad that is not a romantic partnership. A very strong friendship, or collaborative relationship.
It is also possible to have this kind of relationship with more people: with a triad or a quad.
It is even possible to have this of coordination and collaboration at higher scales: not merely between individuals, but between groups of people. Between towns or regions; between organizations or even nations.
In my experience, once U see this kind of coordination is possible, and the joy it can bring, U want more and more of it, in more areas of your life.
Having language that represents this reality gets U partway there. That’s why I use the words “dyad” or “triad” or “quad”; or the phrases “we-spaces” or “synergic mode”; that’s why it’s sometimes useful to “speak of we.”
Beyond that, it is possible to notice some of the causes and conditions of this kind of experience, to reverse engineer it so that it becomes more likely. To build and spread the skills that make this more common, more widespread.
It is possible to imagine a mating dance for dyads, or for triads, or quads—or such mating dances at any scale, at larger and larger scales.